The term “gentle parenting” was unheard of for decades until author Sarah Ockwell-Smith birthed it in her 2016 book, titled The Gentle Parenting Book, which took the world by storm. Since so many generations have grown up with the “tough love” style of parenting, it wasn’t surprising that this technique became so popular. But what is it, exactly?
Gentle parenting aims to end toxic parenting techniques used previously, and many parents of all ages today are embracing it to break out of the cycle of trauma they’d been in.
Letting go of principles, beliefs, and social norms is harder than it sounds. The lifelong impact toxic parenting has on a child has detrimental effects on their mental and physical health. Here’s how you can take a stand, and raise a better generation:
Recognize the Patterns
Children accept what they see growing up around them. If they grow up not being appreciated for their achievements, they’ll think that not being commended or complimented is the normal way to live.
For you to not do the same with your children, you must take time to recognize harmful patterns you might have grown up with or that exist in society. Realizing the problem is half the battle won.
You should step back, and ask yourself what a younger version of you wanted, or would want from your parent. When you have the answers to these questions, you’ll know that you need to change your behavior accordingly.
Children listen to everything said around them, which is why they catch onto unflattering words so quickly! But you can use this to your advantage. Try and voice your opinions on the norms and traditions you find unjust, what you’d rather practice and believe in, and what you think is right and/or wrong.
Your child will grow up listening to you and internalizing those feelings. They’ll learn to quickly accept or reject behaviors which match the descriptions, whether positive or negative.
If you think you could use help in enforcing good concepts in your child, you might want to consider enrolling them in a childcare center, like The Whole Child Development Center in Lenexa, KS. We provide infant daycare facilities and have some of the best after-school and preschool programs. Our trained staff is well-equipped to teach your children the skills they need for a good life. Get in touch with us to learn more about our services.